So my husband is on the school board at our kids' school district, so I will try and be careful what I say here.
Our daughter is in 3rd grade, and we absolutely ADORE her teacher. This Monday, she passed out notes from the music teacher, but only to certain kids. There are 21 kids in Melissa's class, and from what she says it has to be about 15 of them who got this note. Apparently, the music teacher is starting a "special" choir called the Tiny Tigers, and she was inviting children into this choir via this note. Here are my problems with this:
1) She invited every girl in her class except for Melissa and 1 other girl. She invited boys who don't behave, and one of those boys ALWAYS harasses Melissa, and this gave him a new reason to do so. He has been teasing her now since Monday about how she must be the worst singer since she didn't get "invited". I would like to hurt this boy.
2) This is 3rd grade, not some competing honor choir. I say she should have sent a note home to the parents informing them about this choir, that way if their kid wanted to participate they would know about it and it would have been fair. I heard one of the moms say that these kids who got the notes have to "audition" for the choir? I don't know if that's true, but if it is then that is RIDICULOUS!!!
3) This teacher is infamous for only allowing certain kids to have big "parts" in the kids music programs each year. I know that last year and this year, she chose the same students for solos and speaking parts. There are like 11 3rd grade classes, so she has PLENTY of kids to choose from, but she wants to make herself look good.
4) This teacher was very rude to my husband upon being introduced to him at a Halloween function at my church, so I guess I don't have a lot of respect for her. I guess she's one of the teachers who didn't want him on the school board, and she feels it's acceptable to treat him as a non-human because of that. That's JUST the type of person I want influencing my kid.
So I emailed her Monday night, asking how she chose kids to "invite" and letting her know that I really felt it was unfair the way she chose all the girls in my daughter's class except for 2 of them. Of course, I didn't hear back from her. So I saw Melissa's classroom teacher last night at a band concert and I told her that I was upset, and she said she had several parents and teachers call her as they were upset too, and that I should go over the head of the music teacher if I don't get a response. So guess what--that's what I'm doing!! Seems crazy, yes. But this teacher needs a reality check--she is working with elementary children in small-town USA, and if she wants to work with professionals she needs to go somewhere else.
I know, great Christmas spirit!!!!! I hope to be back in good spirits later today, after I call the school and see how much trouble has to be stirred up before this choir thing is nipped in the bud.
I'm also praying for a friend of my husband--his son is 9 (I believe, he may still be 8) and was born with a heart condition. I saw on Facebook last night that he needs a new heart. I can't imagine what this family is going through, and they just need prayers.